10 Tips to Bring the Sexy Back into Your Relationship

It's not unusual for sparks to dissipate over time in a long-term relationship. Over the years, the fiery passion you felt at the beginning of your relationship is replaced by a steadier, and more enduring, love. However, you don't have to give up on passionate and fulfilling sex just because those initial sparks have decreased. Here are ten ways to get your sexy back:

Great sex isn't like it's portrayed in the movies. It's not always spontaneous or perfect, and you and your partner might not reach orgasm together in a beautiful choreographed moment. The good news is that you can have an amazing sex life — you just have to allow for real life and take steps to prioritize pleasure.

It's not always possible to get a sitter and get out of the house. But it is important to take time for your partner and your relationship at least once a week, even if it means cutting back on the kids' extracurricular activities or getting rid of cable in favor of having money to pay the sitter.

Your partner isn't a mind reader, no matter how much you might want him to be. This is especially true in the bedroom. Guide your partner with your moans or coos, and speak up and say "harder," "faster," or whatever else you desire — it will be both informative and erotic!

Sex toys can be an incredible way to deepen your passion and excitement, and contrary to popular belief, they are not just for single people: In fact, couples are the demographic most likely to enjoy sex toys!

Sometimes people put off sex because they want to wait until the house is clean or the kids are asleep or they have lost ten pounds. But if you wait for "perfection" before you have sex, you are going to be waiting for an eternity! Embrace sex whenever and however it comes, even if your legs aren't shaved or the laundry isn't done.

It's hard to find alone time to connect with your partner, but take advantage of those moments whenever they come, whether it's making dinner together or surprising him in the shower in the morning.

Our thoughts create our reality, and if your thoughts are "I am not sexy" or "Our sex life is just dull," then you aren't going to be able to make positive changes. Instead, think "I have a sexy person buried inside me, and I am going to commit to bringing out that side and sharing it with my partner."

Dinner and a movie is always fun, but it's not exactly original. Spark your creativity and your heart rate by going on a daring date, such as riding roller coasters at the amusement park or going sky diving. The release of dopamine and adrenaline will mimic the butterflies you felt when you were first dating your partner.

Grab a copy of the Kama Sutra or simply search the Web for inspiration. Make it your goal to try a new sex position every month — you might discover some new favorites. And you might be surprised to learn just how limber your partner really is!