A recent study by Harvard researchers has found that men and women seem to operate on slightly different circadian rhythms. In fact, researchers found that women are 50 percent more likely to report insomnia issues, particularly when it comes to waking and not being able to fall asleep again. This might mean they need to hit the sack a little earlier than their male counterparts.
If this sounds familiar, don’t worry. There are many ways you can fit sex into a schedule that works for both of you:
Make a lunch date. Most people experience their peak of energy in the early afternoon. Take advantage of this by scheduling a lunch date with your partner… with a little afternoon delight, of course! Meet each other at home for a quick go-round in between meetings. Not only will you have privacy since the kids will be at school, but it will also feel quite decadent having sex midday. This might inspire you to be even naughtier and more uninhibited than usual, and best of all, fatigue won’t disrupt your sexual pleasure.
Take advantage of your early-bird energy. In the study, researchers found that since women and men have different circadian rhythms, women are more likely to be early birds while men are more likely to be night owls. Take advantage of your early-morning vigor by setting your alarm 30 minutes earlier than usual. Create a relaxing and sensual morning routine that includes showering with your partner or cuddling in bed before the kids wake up. Find time to connect on this physical level first thing in the morning. Not only will you have more energy to have sex, but it will also set the tone for the rest of the day… and you will walk into work with a great, big smile on your face!
If you suffer from disrupted sleep, it’s important to take a look at where your issues stem from: Do you feel exhausted right when you come home from work, only to feel wide awake when it is time for bed? Do you toss and turn all night, disrupting your partner’s sleep and your own? These are all common problems, but thankfully, most sleep issues can be treated effectively with a few small lifestyle changes. Consider the following:
Have a sleep routine. If your partner usually stays up late watching Conan, ask him to watch the TV out in the living room. (Not only can the glare of the TV disrupt your brain patterns during sleep, but it can also serve as a distraction to your sex life!) While he is out enjoying the show, you can have your own relaxing sleep routine. Read a book, journal, or dim the lights and meditate.
Stick to a sleep schedule. Go to bed at the same time each night, and wake at the same time each morning… even on the weekends! Sleeping for an extra 30 minutes probably won’t disturb your schedule, but anything more will derail your natural circadian rhythm for the rest of the week.
If you get your sleep patterns under control, it will bring balance to your lives — and make your bedroom a more fun place to be.