Are you bored with your typical bedroom routine? Don’t fret, it is possible to generate sexual sparks and fire up your sex life. All you have to do is use your imagination and get a little creative. Consider the following ideas:
Just a Flash of Light
Try using nothing but a flashlight as your light source the next time you have sex. You get all the benefits of the dark and all the novelty of a flashlight. He can beam the flashlight on you while you give him a little show. Or, take the flashlight and shine it on your face or a particular body part you know he loves. In fact, a flashlight is a great way to get to know each other's bodies inch by inch. You can get as up close and personal as you want.
A flashlight can make sex sexier, too. Position it so it's shining on you while you have sex. It can cast an unusual light on your entangled bodies. Watch yourselves in a mirror while you do it. Or play doctor, and take turns “inspecting each other” to make sure you're healthy!
Naughty Nighttime Phone Calls
The phone can be a direct line to better sex. A little phone play provides the opportunity to get riskier and be dirtier than you may be face-to-face. It's a great way to let loose and put some edge back into your relationship.
Don't reserve phone sex just for the long-distance relationship (though it works wonders there too!). Give your honey a late-night call when you've decided to do your own thing, or when one of you is traveling.
Since the idea is to get aroused and have some fun, make sure you are comfortable and feeling a little frisky before picking up the phone. Get into bed. Wear something sexy. Or get naked. Then call him at a time when you know he's alone, too. You might want to get the creative juices flowing with a great opener, like "I've just been trying on my new thong and garter!" or "I was just thinking of you as I took a long, hot shower." The idea is to create the most luscious, erotic mental picture you can. Take the opportunity to talk about sex graphically, which you may not do in your "real" sex life.
Restore the Novelty
To restore the passion, unpredictability, and excitement to sex, there is just one word you need to remember: novelty. Make it your mantra. Think, what can I do to make this sexual experience different? Better? Hotter? These don't have to be gangbuster, peel-me-off-the-ceiling ideas. In fact, it's the little things that often make the most difference. Make a pact with your partner to try one new position this week, for instance, or buy a sensual massage video and use what you learn. Have sex in a different room or surprise him (and yourself) with a quickie the next time you're rushing out the door to work.
With a little bit of effort and communication, every couple can have amazing sex throughout their relationship!