How to Be a Tease

No one likes a tease, the old saying goes — but that truism falls flat when it comes to great sex.

The mere suggestion of touch is often more scintillating than the actual stroke. Crafting a long, slow buildup to intercourse makes the main event explosive; keeping him guessing about what you'll do next will drive him wild and bring you both to the edge of excitement.

The best way to milk your foray into foreplay for all its worth is to break from the usual techniques and the usual anatomy. If you're on the receiving end, ask your partner to avoid your genitals (temporarily). He can swipe by them as he kisses your abdomen, caresses your inner thigh, or fondles a rarely explored part. If you're the one dishing it out, kiss him everywhere but there. Intensify the tease by paying the genitals a little attention, but only for a minute. Immediately put the focus back on another seemingly unrelated body part, and repeat. You'll build his anticipation and send him straight into the stratosphere when you finally give him what he wants. Remind him that good things come to those who wait!

If delaying release and postponing touch gets both of you hot and bothered, you might consider bringing a little VENIS into the bedroom. VENIS stands for very erotic non-insertive sex, and just as it sounds, it’s all about having an amazing sexual experience without having actual intercourse. Start off by telling your partner that penetration is off-limits for the night…you both have to find different ways to pleasure each other.

If you are stuck for ideas, start by getting in touch with your sensual side. You can set the mood with candles and soft music, but why not take things up a notch? Pop in a little erotica or play some hot dance music. Change the mood from romantic to intense, and dance with your partner to get in the mood. It doesn’t matter if neither of you are really into dancing. Just listen to your body and grind against each other in slow, intense motions. Let your bodies connect as you are completely clothed, and allow your fingers to roam all over his body. Notice the way his muscles feel under his shirt, or the way his hands feel as they run up and down your tights.

When you are ready to get unclothed, up the sensual factor. Use warming massage oil and rub each other down from head to toe. Spend particular attention on your hot spots but remember…don’t bring each other to orgasm too soon! This exercise is all about taking things slow and challenging the way that you usually think about sex. Massage his buttocks and inner thighs, and slowly trail your fingers along his legs. As you massage each other, add in a little making out. Use your tongue to tantalize him, giving him just a little and then pulling away when he’s least expecting. By the end of the night, he will be begging for release — and you will have enjoyed hours and hours of sexual connection!