Gay Men and Sexual Pleasure

Everyone wants a sex life that is passionate, rewarding, and exciting, yet creating that sexual pleasure time and time again isn’t easy. Whether you have been with your partner for years or your relationship is newer, sexual connection remains a vital part of any loving relationship. However, the unfortunate truth is that intimacy, over time, can get a little ho-hum.

Many people are under the wrong impression that sex between gay men is always fabulous and frequent. After all, movies tell us that gay men have insanely high libidos and that they essentially can barely keep it in their pants. The stereotypical belief leads us to think that gay men never have to confront sexual boredom.

Of course, any gay man will tell you that isn’t the case. Gay sexual pleasure is no different from straight sexual pleasure. Sometimes it is amazing, and sometimes it takes work. Here is a gay man’s guide to spicing up sexual pleasure:

Sex toys aren’t just for single folks! There are numerous ways to use and enjoy sex toys as a couple. Consider using a prostate stimulator on your partner while performing 69, or explore the realms of anal pleasure by using a prostate stimulator that can be heated or cooled for extra sensory pleasure. And sex toys don’t end there. Along with dildos, vibrating plugs, and other kinds of prostrate stimulators, there is also a myriad of unique and erotic sex aids that most people have never even considered.

For example, there is huge selection of “masturbating sleeves” that range from the predictable to the bizarre (in response to the recent vampire craze, there are even masturbating sleeves that come equipped with vampire fangs at the opening, along with soft teeth lining the inside of the sleeve). Use these sleeves together to enjoy mutual masturbation as a couple, or make use of them when one of you has to go away on a business trip. Phone or webcam sex will be much more exciting and fulfilling if you have a sleeve to help recreate the feel and touch of your partner’s mouth. Or, if it is simultaneous orgasms that you seek, you can slip a vibrating ring around the shaft of your penis as you penetrate and stimulate your partner.

Erotica for gay couples. Along with sex toys, there is also a wide range of erotica that gay couples can use to enhance and improve their sexual experiences. For written erotica, you can consider collections of erotic stories such as Gay Love (Coldwell, et al) or erotic novels written by popular authors such as Amanda Young and K.A. Mitchell. Read the stories aloud to give some spice to date night, or act out a particularly sexy scene when you are in the mood for role play.

Try new positions. There is so much more to gay sex than being a “bottom” or a “top.” Take things to the next level by switching up your usual positions and getting creative. Take things outside the bedroom and have sex in a different room in the house, or hop in the shower together for some slippery fun. Remember, sex is only as interesting and passionate as you make it, so get creative and take things to the next level whenever you get the chance.

Learn his body. Unlike heterosexual couples, homosexual couples have the benefit of already knowing and understanding the anatomy of their partners’ bodies, as they are blessed with similar parts. However, that doesn’t mean that sex is straightforward. You still have to learn the landscape of your partner’s body and understand what types of strokes, licks, and touches he prefers. Even if you have the same anatomy, remember that sexuality all begins in the mind, so you have to first learn what his inner desires and fantasies are all about before you can truly pleasure your partner beyond his wildest dreams.