DIY Orgasms for Women

Self-stimulation. It’s a taboo topic many women don’t like to talk about. While men often openly joke about their propensity for self-pleasure, women tend to shy away from such discussion or behavior. It’s no wonder we react with such embarrassment — as children, many of us were taught that self-stimulation was shameful or unladylike. Yet, if you don’t know how to give yourself pleasure, how can you show your partner how to make you feel good?

Here are the top things women need to know about masturbation:

1. It’s more common than you think. The well-known sex researcher Alfred Kinsey surveyed women to see how many of them masturbated, and the answer was around 62 percent — and that study was conducted in 1953! Also, these are just the women who felt comfortable admitting their private stimulation, so the real number was probably much higher!
   
   
2. Women enjoy masturbation on a regular basis. According to a study we performed at the Berman Center with Drugstore.com, one in five women masturbate on a weekly basis.
   
   
3. Plenty of women own and enjoy sex toys. Almost half of women between the ages of 18 and 60 years old have used a sex toy.
   
   
4. Women who masturbate feel good about themselves. According to a study performed by Planned Parenthood, women who masturbate have higher self-esteem than women who don’t, and they also report less anxiety. More confidence and less stress? Talk about a win-win.
   
   
5. Sex toys aren’t just for single folks. The Berman Center study also found that women who are in relationships are the ones who are most likely to own and use a sex toy.
   
   
6. Masturbation improves your relationships. Women who masturbate are also more likely to report satisfaction with their relationships and sex life. Self-stimulation apparently has numerous benefits, including making you feel comfortable with your own body and enjoying sexual pleasure, all of which add up to better sex.
   
   
7. Erotica isn’t just for men. Whether it’s a kinky movie or erotic fiction, many women own and enjoy erotica. It awakens their sexual imagination and helps them discover their inner vixen. Not to mention, it gives them plenty to fantasize about!
   
   
8. Men love when women self-stimulate. Nothing turns men on like women who are confident and hands-on in the bedroom, especially when it comes to self-stimulation. Since the activity feels so taboo and secretive, it can be a huge turn-on to let him see that side of you. Not to mention, it will show him how you like to be touched — so he can pick up a few pointers.
   
   
9. Orgasms can help decrease stress, and they can also promote better circulation. Orgasms tend to work on a “use it or lose it” basis. If you want to get in touch with your body and enjoy orgasms with your partner, you need to stay in tune with your own desires and be aware of your own sexual responses.
   
   
10. Orgasms are amazing. Self-stimulation leads to a life with more passion, pleasure, and desire. Why resist?