Whether you are single or married, younger or older, sex toys can offer a fun and exciting way to improve your sexual experience. With so many different toys out on the market, you might wonder: Which sex toy is right for me?
Consider the following common options:
There are many different kinds of vibrators, but the most common vibrators are ones that stimulate the clitoris. Some use clitoral vibrators to provide direct stimulation during vaginal or anal intercourse or even the use of a dildo. Male vibrators can stimulate the perineum or even be inserted inside the anus to stimulate the prostate. There are also vibrating penis rings (which you slip around the base of the penis) and vibrating sleeves (in which the penis is inserted into a sleeve made of sensual material that feels like a woman’s genitals). Whatever option you choose, vibrators are one of the best ways to feel intense pleasure and increase arousal, whether you are self-stimulating or using your toy with a partner.
Dildos are phallic-like sexual aids that are inserted into the vagina or anus. They often come with extra features (e.g., they vibrate), but they can also be simple and straightforward, large or small. They come in a wide variety of material, including silicone, crystal, and acrylic.
Some people use the dildo to increase pleasure during intercourse, by having their partner insert a dildo into the anus during vaginal intercourse. Make sure you always clean your toys after use and that you never use a toy in your vagina after you’ve used it in your anus. (It’s important not to transmit bacteria from your anus into your vagina, as it can throw off the delicate pH balance in your vagina and lead to infection.)
G-spot Stimulators and Prostate Stimulators
G-spot stimulators are toys that are built to bring pleasure to your G-spot, either through vibration or stimulation of the area. These toys come in a wide variety of materials and sizes, varying from small hand-held toys to large vibrating toys. If you have never been able to locate your G-spot, these toys can be highly useful. It’s as simple as inserting the toy in your vagina and letting it do all the work!
Prostate stimulators can be thought of as a counterpart to G-spot stimulators, as they also are built to locate and stimulate a pleasure spot. I call it the “P-spot.” These toys are inserted in the anus, where they stimulate the P-spot and can create a prostate orgasm. It’s okay to be a little hesitant to use such a toy, especially if you have never engaged in anal play before, but it’s a pleasurable stimulation that manly men find highly orgasmic (whether they are gay, straight, or anything in between!).
Whatever toys you choose, remember never to use silicone-based lubricant on silicone toys. Instead, opt for water-based options, as silicone lubes can break down the composition of the toy. If you are using latex condoms, avoid oil based lubricants as they may potentially break down the latex. And make sure to clean them in warm, soapy water when you are finished. These precautions aside, there is no reason sex toys can’t be a wonderful part of your relationship…whether it’s with yourself or a partner!