Date nights are meant to create romance and passion between you and your partner. It gives you a time to get away from the daily grind and reconnect as lovers in an intimate and meaningful way. However, not all date nights inspire sexual connection and passion. If your dates are boring and predictable, you might find that your sex life feels the same. Yet dating ruts are a natural part of long-term relationships. Not only do you go through the same routine (dinner and a movie), but you likely go to the same restaurant, take the same route, sit in the same theater row, and even wear the same outfit and undergarments. Talk about boring!
Luckily, it is possible to break out of a dating rut. All it takes is a little bit of creativity! Consider the following ideas:
- Try a surrender date. On a surrender date, one partner has to surrender all control to the other. He will get to choose your outfit, your lingerie, and your makeup and hairstyle... not to mention, the date destination and activity. It is very erotic to surrender control to your partner and it is also freeing. You will be able to enjoy the date without any stress or anxiety, since every decision will fall to him. This is a particularly great date idea for women who are Type A’s and have a hard time letting go of control and being in the present.
- Get your heart racing. One of the best ways to reignite those sparks is to enjoy an activity that is exciting and even a little bit scary. Go bungee jumping, sky diving, or hit an amusement park and go on the most thrilling rides. The dopamine and adrenaline that rush through your body during these activities mimics those early feelings of excitement that you felt when you were first dating, so this is a good way to get your heart pumping. If you aren’t a thrill-seeker, just have a scary movie night (to avoid the “ick” factor, avoid gruesome fare like the Saw series, and instead opt for classics like Psycho or When a Stranger Calls).
- Get out of your comfort zone. Experiment with a new cuisine like Indian or Ethiopian, which will have you getting hands-on with your food as you sample different dishes. Or, hit up a local BYOB and order the craziest things on the menu that you can find. Forget your usual burger and fries routine — go for the duck tacos or the pork belly. Switch things up by ordering for each other... see if he can guess your tastebuds and pick something you enjoy!
Whatever you do, just make sure you try something new and have fun! Boring dates equal boring sex... and no one wants that!