What’s your flirting style?
A new study from the University of Kansas has found that there are five distinct flirting styles. The study, which surveyed more than 5,000 people, identified the styles as: physical flirting (in which sexual desire is made evident), traditional flirting (in which men “court” women and women have passive roles), polite flirting (in which good manners play a large role), sincere flirting (in which strong emotional connections are established), and playful flirting (in which being fun and silly are most important).
Not surprisingly, flirting styles greatly impacted relationship success. Individuals who engaged in playful flirting and flirted for flirting’s sake were less likely to have meaningful relationships, unlike people who engaged in sincere flirting or polite flirting. Those who engaged in physical flirting were not only likely to have meaningful relationships, but they were also more likely to have sexual chemistry with their partners.
No matter what type of flirt you are, it’s important not to allow flirting to fall by the wayside, especially if you are in a long-term relationship. People wrongly think that flirting is only for single folks, but the truth is that flirting can keep you and your partner bonded and satisfied, inside and outside the bedroom. Here are some ideas to get you flirting with your partner again:
Let your partner know you want him. One way to do that is to send him a sexy text during the day. Make it as sweet or as naughty as you want, just remember to make your desire for him clear. Nothing is sexier than knowing that your partner wants you. Keep this sexual energy flowing by exchanging perfunctory pecks for deep, sensual kisses, and stay connected physically by touching him more often. Hold hands, make out in the back of the movie theater, snuggle together on the couch as you watch television, and make time in the morning for some a.m. action.
Treat each other like lovers, not roommates. After years of living together, it’s easy to slip into a habit of wearing old sweatpants, letting your grooming slip, or even forgetting to shut the bathroom door. This can really wreak havoc on your relationship. Not only will you not feel sexy and desirable, but your partner won’t feel that you are sexually interested in him and his sexual self-esteem will suffer. It’s important to treat each other as lovers, and not slip into a platonic roommate routine.
Get ready for date night. Remember when you used to get butterflies before going on dates with your partner? Now, it’s more likely that you are running around the house trying to get the kids calmed down for the babysitter, and you barely even have time to throw on some mascara and a clean outfit. However, if you don’t take time to get ready and savor the anticipation of a night out with your partner, you won’t be in a sensual and relaxed mood for your date. Instead, you will find yourself tired and crabby, hardly in the mood for romance.
To prevent this crankiness and keep flirting alive, ask your babysitter to come over an hour before you actually have to leave the house. This will give you time to get ready at a leisurely pace and relax before the date. Take some time for yourself and maybe even take a hot bath. Get sexy energy flowing by reading a chapter or two of an erotic romance novel while you are in the tub, or just wear that sexy bra and panty set you have been saving for a special occasion.
Whatever your flirting style might be, just remember to keep those feel-good feelings flowing and let your inner flirt run wild.