How to Deal With Honeymoon Blues

Along with wedding planning, many happy couples also eagerly pack and plan for their much-anticipated honeymoons. Whether you are headed to Punta Cana or San Diego, the excitement and joy you feel will likely make any location idyllic. Yet there are some things to keep in mind as you pack up your sunscreen and bikini. Here are the top five tips to ensure a great honeymoon:

1. Enjoy the art of doing nothing. After months of wedding planning, you likely need some major R & R. However, many honeymooners overschedule themselves and get caught up in vacation anxiety as they try to pack in as much sightseeing as possible. Don’t get so caught up in “enjoying” yourselves that you can’t see the forest for the trees (or the beach for the sand, as the case may be!). It’s okay if you sleep in and miss the breakfast buffet or if you’d rather spend the day in bed with your spouse instead of in a long queue at the local tourist trap. As long as you and your partner are having fun, it doesn’t matter if you don’t see anything other than the inside of your hotel room!
2. Remember why you came. Historically, honeymoons were a time for a young couple to escape the hubbub of their everyday lives, to bond with each other, and to become intimate with each other for the first time. Of course, in this day and age, most couples have already been intimate before their wedding night (and some already live together). But this doesn’t mean that your honeymoon still shouldn’t be about bonding and intimacy. It’s more than just a regular vacation. It’s about celebrating the beginning of your lifetime journey as a couple and about creating memories that you will cherish for the rest of your lives. When you consider that, it’s easy to realize that getting a tan is just a bonus.
3. Break sexual boundaries. Even if and your partner have already been intimate, your honeymoon can still be a time of sexual exploration and discovery. From racy lingerie to erotica to sex toys, there are so many ways you can spice up your connection; make it your goal to bring to life at least one of your major sexual fantasies. For example, have you always wanted to have sex in the ocean, or have you often fantasized with your partner about joining the “mile-high club”? Make it your honeymoon goal to do at least one sexual act that gets your heart racing and your adrenaline pumping, and then remember to keep that spirit alive after the honeymoon as well!
4. Have realistic expectations. It’s natural to fantasize about your big day and have high hopes when you board the plane. However, be prepared for a few things to go wrong (from lost luggage to incorrect hotel reservations, traveling rarely comes without complications). Instead of fighting the chaos, embrace it. For example, if an unexpected rain storm hits the beach, don’t mope angrily in your hotel room. Instead, you and your partner can relax under the safety of a cabana and enjoy a few island drinks as you wait out the storm and laugh over your wedding-day memories. The bottom line is that if you set off on your honeymoon with a spirit of adventure and a determination to have fun no matter what, then that’s exactly what you will do.
5. Be prepared for post-wedding blues. Once the revelers have all gone home and the wedding gifts have been unwrapped, it’s natural to feel a twinge of post-wedding-day blues — even if you are headed to a sunny beach. Most couples spend months or even years planning their big day, so when it is all over, it can be hard to come down from all that anticipation. Now that there are no more invitations to design or cakes to taste, keep in mind that it’s natural to feel a bit melancholy, no matter how perfect the wedding day was. But, remember, the wedding day is just one of innumerable happy memories you will build with your new spouse, not to mention, you can relive those memories as you look over the beautiful photographs of the day.