Relationship Replay: Troy and Samantha are happily dating and deeply in love. However, they have one major issue: Samantha’s jealousy. Growing up, Samantha’s dad was a ladies man and he always told her “Everyone cheats.” Now, Samantha finds it impossible to trust Troy, even though she realizes that he is a wonderful partner and that he isn’t the type of person who would cheat on her or hurt her. However, she still can’t let go of her fears and mistrust.
Dr. Berman’s homework:
Know your own worth. If you don’t believe in your own worth and have a healthy self-esteem, it will be hard for you to trust your partner or believe that he truly loves you. If you don’t love yourself, it’s impossible to accept love and know what it looks like when it is offered to you. Break down the walls of insecurity and work on your own self-esteem, and you will find that jealousy and paranoia often disappears.
Realize that the issue is yours, and not your partner’s alone. If you have problems with jealousy and insecurity, it isn’t necessarily because your partner isn’t loving or trustworthy enough. Many times people who struggle with jealousy find that the issue follows them from relationship to relationship, so it’s not enough to simply blame your partner and look for someone new. You have to do the work and make the choice to change in order to find the happiness and love you deserve.