Relationship Replay: Kelli is very inhibited sexually and is not very aware of her own body and her own sexual desires. She tries to initiate sex to keep Dash happy, but he knows that she is just going through the motions so he turns down her advances.
Dr. Berman’s homework:
Have sex with the lights on. Many women feel inhibited in the bedroom and suffer from poor body image. They might not feel ‘sexy’ or ‘hot’ enough, and all of these negative thoughts can make it difficult to enjoy sex and let loose. Try having sex with the lights on or walking around in sexy lingerie to push your boundaries and build up your sexual confidence. Your partner will love it, and you will feel erotic and empowered.
Get to know your anatomy. Take a hand mirror and look at your genitals up close and personal. Get to know your hotspots and learn about your own body. If you don’t know your hotspots or what feels good in the bedroom, you won’t be able to tell your partner what you need.
Take sex off the table. Sometimes the best thing you can do for your sex life is not have sex. If you are not enjoying sex or if you feel pressured or anxious when sex arises, it might be time to take sex off the table for a while. Get back to enjoying other sensual activities like kissing, massage, touch, and cuddling, and then slowly implement sex back into your relationship when you are both ready.