Kissing plays an important role in romantic relationships. It keeps us connected and intimate, and it helps incite arousal and increase pleasure. No wonder so many people get anxious about the first kiss. From making sure that you time it right to trying to use just the right amount of gentle pressure, kissing can be a delicate art to navigate. And it doesn’t help that everyone likes to be kissed differently!
The good news is that there are many things you can do to help ensure that your kissing style will sizzle instead of fizzle. Whether it’s your first kiss ever, or the first kiss with that someone special, consider the top tips for the best first kiss:
Learn How to Read Body Language
When it comes to the first kiss, people are often most anxious about timing it right. They don’t want to move too fast or surprise their date with an attempted kiss that leads to an awkward head-bump. Simplify the process by reading your date’s body language: Does she have her arms crossed or her legs turned away from you? (This might be a sign that she is closed off and kissing might be a bad idea.) Or is she leaning toward you openly and playing with her hair? (This could be a sign that she is in a flirtatious mood and kissing is a go!)
Don't Skip the Preparation
We all know that oral hygiene is a must when it comes to a great kiss, but when you are on a date, you can’t excuse yourself to floss. The good news, however, is that you can still have fresh breath: Avoid pungent flavors like garlic and onion, and drink plenty of water during the date. You can also grab a salt packet to take to the bathroom. Gargling with a little salt water in the bathroom can help to freshen your breath and boost your confidence when it’s time to pucker up.
Remember, Everyone Wants to Be Kissed Differently
Maybe your last partner loved deep French kissing or intimate pecks, but everyone enjoys different kisses. Instead of going with the “usual,” try to pay attention to your date’s kissing pattern. By doing so, you can discover the type of kissing she most enjoys — then you will be able to deliver again and again.
Use Your Hands
You might think that lips are the only thing involved in a great kiss, but your hands play an important role, too. Use your hands to gently pull your date closer to you, or let your hands rest gently on her face as you tilt her head toward yours. Or simply stroke her hair or hold onto her hips. It will increase her desire, and your kissing will become more natural and relaxed as you simply tune into each other’s body.
If you let your nerves get the best of you, you aren’t going to be able to deliver a great kiss. Kissing is about sensuality and physical connection, and if you aren’t in the moment and enjoying yourself, it’s going to come across in your kiss. Instead, take a deep breath and remind yourself: A kiss really is just a kiss! If it doesn’t go smoothly the first time, don’t be afraid to laugh it off and try again. Chances are, your date is just as nervous and excited as you are, so don’t overthink the kiss or jump to the conclusion that the world is ending if the kiss isn’t perfect. First kisses are usually only perfect in romantic comedies, but practice makes perfect…so pucker up!