Online dating is a fun, simple, and sexy way to meet singles in your area, but it isn't always easy to put your best foot forward. Consider the following online-dating tips:
Pick a sexy handle. You want your username to be unique and to reflect something personal about yourself. Think about your moniker in terms of the image you want to portray and the type of person you want to attract. For example, does HikerGirl, SexyBookWorm, or SensualSalsaDancer fit your personality?
Be specific. Once you’ve chosen a name and begin to fill out a profile, you will likely be asked questions such as “What is your favorite thing to do?” or “How would you describe yourself?” When confronted with these questions, it is easy to rely on stock answers such as, “I love to shop and go to the beach,” but try to be more specific and individual. For example, if you love the beach, you might say: “My perfect day includes a warm beach — and a few unexpected adventures and inside jokes.” The same holds true when you are describing yourself. It is easy to say, “I love to laugh” or “I am smart and I love my family,” but descriptions like these aren’t very exciting or memorable. Instead, try saying, “I have been told I have an infectious laugh. I have a tough outer shell, but I cry like a baby at sappy movies.” More detailed anecdotes will set you apart from the crowd and give prospective matches a better idea of what you are all about.
Choose the right pics. Pictures are a must for online dating. If you don’t post a picture, daters assume you either aren’t whom you say you are or that you have something to hide — not the image you want to give off! It’s a good idea to post a few different photos. Take one headshot of just your smiling face, then consider adding a full body shot (try to be honest here, no outdated shots from the beach five years ago), and a few pictures of you out having a good time with friends and family. This will show that you are sociable and fun-loving.
Two other things: Try to limit the pictures of you and your pets to avoid giving off a crazy cat-lady vibe. And if you want a serious relationship, make sure your pictures reflect that. Don’t show yourself in anything too revealing or drinking heavily unless you want to come across as a party girl.
Now that you have your profile set up, don’t just sit there! Make it a goal to contact five to 10 prospective dates each week. Write a short, flirtatious e-mail to each prospect saying that you saw his profile and wanted to say hello. Mention something specific in his profile that caught your eye, such as his love for the theater or his baseball-card collection. Don’t make your messages too overtly sexual or over-the-top unless you are just looking for an online hookup. Having a sort of rough pre-written template to use to send to potential dates is a good way to save time, but make sure to personalize each note, so that the person knows you aren’t just spamming everyone on the site.