Taking things to the next level with a new partner is always exciting. From your first date to your first kiss to the first time you make love, the excitement just keeps building. With all these feelings in the air, it can be hard to temper your anticipation and take things slow, especially when it comes to inviting him over to your place.
While it might seem that bringing him home is no big deal, especially if you have your own place, it is actually a big step in any relationship. When you move dating into your home, it can intensify your relationship in many ways.
Your home is your private, intimate sanctuary from the world around you. It is where you feel safe, comfortable, and at peace. It’s the place where you can be “you.” Whether you realize it or not, you probably act a little differently at home than you do while you’re out in the world, and you might find yourself being more open and unguarded. As a result, it’s easy for your relationship to go from 0-60 mph overnight — zoom!
If you think you are ready to take this important step, consider the following:
Playing hard to get can go a long way. Even though we are living in a modern era, guys still love the thrill of the chase. It speaks to their natural competitive side and adds some drama and excitement when they finally do land the big date. Keep this in mind when you are considering inviting over your new guy. By taking things slow and instilling an air of mystery, you can ensure that your connection will be that much more exciting when you finally do open the door and let him in. Not only will he be thrilled to finally land an invite, he will realize how special and important the occasion really is, so he will be sure and bring his A-game as well!
Go low-key. Inviting him over for the first time is already intense enough, so don’t add to the anticipation by going over the top. In other words, go easy on the candles, romance, and lingerie. You don’t want him to feel like he is walking into a staged area. Instead, be yourself and keep the situation light and comfortable. Wear comfy (but cute) loungewear, order a pizza, and just have fun with the situation. Leave the big gestures for later in the relationship when you want to add a little wow factor. For now, just being in your place is exciting enough for him!
Be cautious. Inviting a new guy over to your place isn’t just intense, it can be dangerous if you do so before you really get to know him. It’s never a good idea to take someone you just met back to your home, especially if you live alone and you haven’t informed anyone about what you’re doing. Nor should you go over to his place until you get to know him and feel safe doing so. No matter how normal someone seems, there is still a great deal of risk inherent in these situations, especially if alcohol is involved and your judgment is hampered.
Remember, there is no need to rush, and if your new guy is really interested, he will be more than happy to take things slow and make sure that you are comfortable every step of the way. Safety is sexy, especially in this day and age!