Single women everywhere are needlessly spending their Saturday nights alone. It's not that they have nothing else to do — there are friends to visit, dinners to be enjoyed, and movies to be seen. But a certain someone who can't be replaced by other relationships and activities is missing from the picture, and his absence is starting to take the fun out of all the other social-life options.
Sound familiar? If you find yourself still waiting and wishing for love, you may want to take a look at the role you're playing. Time is of the essence — and I don't mean in the biological-clock sense. I mean that if you want to find someone, you have to make time and room for love. In other words, are you actively looking for someone, or are you waiting for someone to find you?
While there's something to be said for living your life and allowing unexpected love to come your way, Mr. Right is not going to fly in through your apartment window! Make sure you're putting yourself out there — get your newspaper and caffeine fix at the coffee shop instead of reading alone at home, or eat lunch in a bustling part of the park rather than at your desk. Join a hiking or bicycling group. Take a language class. Make choices that nourish you and your interests, but that take place in a social setting.
If you give it time, love will come your way — but it'll happen faster if you're not so hard to find! Get out there in the open, and soon lightning will strike.
Playing Hard to Get
Now that you know you shouldn’t be hard to find, you might be wondering if you should play hard to get. We have all received this advice at some time or another, and although well-intentioned, most adults don’t want to have to play games to win someone over. Fortunately, the truth is that you don’t have to play games at all. The secret behind this truism is not in playing hard to get, but in being hard to get.
Being hard to get is good for both you and your prospective partner. It isn’t about his ego or following the rules of a game. It’s about living a full, happy life that satisfies you and enriches you. It’s easy to spot someone who is hard to get. You know that woman from a mile away, although you might not be sure what it is that is so special about her. On the outside, she appears to be a woman of average looks and sex appeal. However, she carries herself with a style and confidence that has every man in the place checking her out. Without this confidence, you can land a first date, but you may not get a second. And the truth is that you will be unlikely to meet the kind of guys you want to date unless you exude a confidence that draws equally confident people to you.
The best thing about being hard to get is that you don’t have to postpone happiness until you meet Mr. Right. Go on that trip to Europe, get that tattoo, or go back to school for your master’s. Being hard to get means you live to the fullest and go after what you want. Of course, you still want to meet someone and enjoy love, but you are not going to put your happiness on hold until that happens — and you don’t need someone else to "complete" you.