Does it sometimes feel like you're the only single woman left on the planet (at least within your group of friends)? When dating disillusionment hits, it's time to pick yourself up by your stiletto-heeled bootstraps and remember some of the reasons why the right relationship is worth waiting for. Ready?
You know what you want.
Falling in love right out of college is great, but it doesn’t give people much time to figure out who they are and what they want out of life. When you wait until you are older, you have a much clearer idea of who you are and what you crave in a partner.
Your experience allows you to make an informed decision when it comes to most aspects of any relationship, including planning a perfect wedding. You've no doubt been to (or in) enough weddings at this point to know the mistakes to avoid — in other words, you won't be doing an e-mail survey of your friends about china patterns. You may even be confident enough to bag the wedding thing altogether and do something crazy — like elope!
You're older and wiser. Having not found someone early in life, you run a lesser chance of you and your partner growing apart, or of being totally sick of each other by the time you're 40. Good news for your future marriage!
You haven't settled. You deserve to get what you want, and if you have to hold out for it, then so be it. Settling for a relationship that's only so-so is selling yourself short, and it's a recipe for a failed marriage. The right guy is out there — and that relationship is worth the wait.
You still get to look forward to that sensational moment of finding the one. You don't know who, you don't know when, and you don't know where. Now that's pretty exciting!
You have your voice. When you get hitched at a young age, it’s easy to get pushed around by your bossy older sister or your domineering mother-in-law. When you are older, you discover that you have a voice and that you aren’t afraid to use it — and you certainly aren’t afraid to tell your mother that there is no way she is dictating the reception dinner menu.
You know the grass isn’t always greener. After years of being single, you will be prepared to commit to your partner wholeheartedly. You will appreciate the value of true love and companionship, and you will be willing and ready to put in the effort necessary to keep your relationship on track.
You know how to take care of yourself. Whenever your partner goes out of town or you are confronted with a difficult situation, you will be able to care for yourself without any trouble.
Good things are worth waiting for. You waited for true love, instead of settling and suffering in an unhappy relationship. What’s better than that?
There’s truth to the notion that good things come to those who wait. Keep your mind and heart open to the prospect of love, and you’re bound to eventually find the partner of your dreams, perhaps even in the most unexpected of places. In the meanwhile, enjoy what life has to offer. After all, what’s the rush?