June 21 - July 21
Ideal Friends: Virgo,
Scorpio, Capricorn, Pisces, and Taurus
Best Lover: Capricorn
Most Suitable Life Partners: Capricorn, Taurus, and Scorpio
Best Fit for Children: Scorpio
You would think that someone so fully capable of tending to the needs of a menagerie of needy souls (and pets, and committees, and clubs…) would be solid and dependable 100 percent of the time, but in fact, Cancer is about as emotionally volatile as people come. The moon is Cancer’s ruler, so changeability is a huge part of the package. What you think is a perfect idea for a gift, a surprise, or a suggestion about the way he dresses or something he’s done for you can be a relationship-ending disaster for Cancer. Always attuned to you and your moods, Cancer implicitly expects you to be at least as attentive toward him. This, of course, is nearly impossible, so you have to learn what it means to “make it up to him.”
Though Cancer stands for family, tradition, and all that wholesome-sounding stuff, sex is definitely a big thing for this lovable puppy dog. Although not aggressive or even dashing, Cancer is enthusiastic about making love…but it will be love, not just carnal pleasure. Cancer has sex with his mind, body, and soul. He looks at it as a way to bond with you, and once that’s done, he’ll be yours forever — or at least for as long as you live up to his (incredibly high) expectations. It’s important to know that once you and Cancer get "that" close, he will feel as though you belong to each other. If you’re not ready for that, you’d better avoid the "going to bed and getting treated to everything that could possibly trigger orgasm even though you didn’t ask for it" part.
Aphrodisiac: Turn Cancer On
by Complimenting Him
All you have to do to get Cancer started is pay attention to him and tell him how cute you think he is. Yes, it’s that easy! Here’s this person, running around the world taking care of people, and finally he meets you, and you’re interested in him. He couldn’t be happier. Remembering his birthday and the things he tells you about his family will earn you bonus points; but if all else fails, comfort food will do it. Cancer will show you how true it is that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
Friendship: Cancer Is the Ultimate Good
Cancer might seem slightly shy when you first meet him, but in truth he’s very easy to get to know. He has an infinite amount of compassion and will gladly listen to you recount what your day — or decade — has been like. He’ll suggest remedies and help you see a better way to handle certain situations, but not in a pushy or condescending way. This is someone who really wants to soothe and nurture you and will offer you ways to "feel better" — but there is this one thing, or several actually: There can be some strings attached! Unless you share his watery intuitiveness, it’s almost impossible to be as insightful and scary-accurate about what Cancer wants from you in the same way he can anticipate your needs. A Cancer who feels slighted morphs rather quickly into a crabby, nasty piece of work, who will then lay a guilt trip on you for making him your "victim." See? It pays to be nice to Cancer and ask how his day was, too, no matter how much he doesn’t seem to care if you forget to do so.
Sensuality: Cancer Loves to Make Love
Cancer partners have a very emotional way of looking at life, so when you have sex, far more than the simple mechanics will be involved. Cancer will probe into your soul merely by looking deeply into your eyes. When you show a sign of recognition that says you love your Cancer very much, the rest of the fireworks you’re in for will rival the Fourth of July in Washington, D.C., New York City, and Boston Harbor combined. Cancer will respond to your every cue, even those you aren’t aware you’re sending out, and the results will be spectacular. Cancer likes a lot of variety, so surprise him by showing up at an odd time and starting to make out in one of his favorite places around the house, like the kitchen!
Type of Lover: Cancer Will Coddle You and
Likes You to Honor His Sensitivity
The kind of love you get from Cancer will be gentle and sweet, but in other ways it can be overpowering. Much will depend on your ability to meet Cancer on the same level when it comes to true emotional intimacy. It you’re at all shy or skeptical about the concept of sharing your life with someone, this relationship is going to be difficult for you. If, however, you’re willing to give of yourself and go on the adventure into the depths of Cancer’s sea of up and down emotions, you’re in for a treat. This is the kind of lover who wraps his arms around you and never, ever wants to let go.
In Bed: All Cancer Wants Is to Touch You
Don’t think for a minute that Cancer’s emotional orientation takes away from his being a fantastic lover. As soppy and sentimental as he is, the moment he begins to translate those feelings into sexual arousal, you’ll be hooked. He’ll go out of his way to bring you to a level of titillation you often fantasize about, then wait for you to beg him to finish you off! Most times, he’ll be able to hold out on his own orgasm until he gets you there, but his tendency to "leave his body" sometimes also means he could lose control when he comes. Don’t be harsh with him — ever. Cancer’s sensitivity is such that it could push him into a state of mind where all he does is cry, or it could alternately set him off on a tirade about what a selfish person you are. To avoid this, make sure you’re paying close attention to Cancer’s sexual progress as things get moving, and do what you can to ensure your timing is good.
In Relationship: Cancer Will Marry You on the
First Date — in His Mind
Lots of people fall in love with the idea of being in love, but Cancer is truly the kind of person who can’t wait to mate! The strong desire to have a family is present in most Cancer people, and when a Cancer shows no signs of wanting children, it can be because he wants to be your "baby." You might have to change some diapers and wipe some tears in that case! All Cancers fall in love much too fast; probably way before they even know the objects of their affection. Still, once they are in the relationship, they will fight hard to keep it going. Cancer can be extremely possessive — and jealous. When someone gives you his entire heart and soul, he gets terribly offended when you don’t return his love in kind. Try to show him you’re worthy of his trust, and encourage him to learn that he needs the kind of love you have to offer, even when it seems like "tough love."
The Heart: Cancer Has a
Huge Heart Filled With Love
Cancer can be the type of person you find openly weeping at things that don’t seem all that sentimental to you. You will probably find this endearing, but if it’s embarrassing, try not to show it. You can try to talk to him about becoming slightly less impressionable, but it will take a lot of work for him to change. That’s because his heart is huge and filled with love. However, it is also extremely fragile. It doesn’t take much to upset your Cancer, but why on earth would you want to do that, anyway? Just be careful about the way you say things to him, and heap on the praise. All he really wants from you, when all is said and done, is your love and your approval for being who he is.
Breaking Up: It Can Happen…Frequently
Cancer is an all-or-nothing kind of person when it comes to love, and any time he feels you’re not living up to your half of the deal by giving your "all," things will get ugly. Cancer will withdraw into his shell, and if you don’t notice he’s done so in time, he could break up with you without you having a clue it’s already happened. Reconciliation is possible, of course, because all good nurturers are capable of forgiveness — and Cancer adores the prospect of making love again after a quarrel, because it’s like the first time, and it’s so romantic, and… You get the idea.
There could come a time when you conclude Cancer is living in a dream world, and that you want to get away from him before he drags you into it. If you want to leave, Cancer will have a hard time letting go, so you’ll have to make it painfully obvious that this is what you want. Further, though, you need to know that once you reject Cancer in an extreme way, all the forgiveness in his heart might not suffice to give him the courage to come back. Once wounded, Cancer will stay away from the person who hurt him so deeply. If that person is you, pack your bags, because you’re about to be dragged away on one ridiculously elaborate guilt trip!
Staying Sexually Fit: You Have to Push Him
to Exercise… At Home or In Water
Most Cancer people aren’t prone to be very physical. They’d much rather be taking care of other people than running on a treadmill or even bicycling through the park. There are two ways Cancer will choose to do exercise: One is if he can do it right in his home and the other would be in and/or around water. Cancer might love doing yoga or tai chi to a DVD right in his living room. Or, if you like to run and want to take him along, make your destination a place where there’s a little of the wet stuff around. It would be really hard for Cancer to say no to a jog (or a brisk walk…or a lovemaking session) along a private stretch of beach where you’re the only two people in the universe.
Anything you can think of that would "fool" your Cancer into some aerobic exercise is going to be a big benefit. A healthy heart can increase the kind of stamina he needs to keep up with you in bed.
Astrologer Judi Vitale brings the Love and Sex Horoscope to you daily. She is the author of Lovecasts: The Astrological Guide to Finding Lasting Love.