September 21 – October 21
Ideal Friends: Sagittarius, Capricorn, Aries, and
Best Lover: Aries
Most Suitable Life Partners: Capricorn, Aries, and Cancer
Best Fit for Children: Aquarius
His Libra Horoscope
His grace, good looks, and charm are enough to attract anyone to Libra. He’s as romantic as men come, with a sharp eye for what is beautiful, so it’s perfectly fitting to be flattered when he approaches you and offers that first single red rose and kisses your hand. You’ll notice his penchant for aesthetics no matter where you find him, and his style will always display his awareness of what looks good on him. He’ll have fine art (or reproductions) throughout his work space and an outfit that gives him head-to-toe elegance and head-turning allure.
Libra’s a charmer all right, but there are a few things you need to know about him from the get-go. He will always strive to keep some emotional distance, because to him, feelings pass through the mind both on the way to and the way from his heart. To keep himself apart from everyone else, he will argue, almost always needlessly. He’ll say such things as, "The sky is NOT blue, it’s azure" or "It’s just not possible for me to have a nice day when it’s so hot, so stop suggesting it." It might make you wonder why everyone says Libra is all about "peace"! You can never win these arguments, so you’ll have to stop quipping back and ask yourself if you’d rather be "right" or be happy — with Libra’s loving arms wrapped around you in a warm embrace. He needs to be mentally stimulated by and attracted to you, so he’ll test you out to see if, when you’re done with what you do in bed, he will be able to respect you in the morning. In many ways, Libra longs for the days when love was a matter most romantic, rather than the complex and befuddling barrage of emotional entanglement and psychobabble it has largely become. Libra will still strive to make a positive impression on you by being the one who treats you right, rather than the cad who’s going to forget your name just before you have your third orgasm. Libra will make you believe you’re playing Sleeping Beauty to his Prince Charming, and no matter how many times he seems to change his mind, you won’t be able to get him out of yours.
Romance Makes His Heart Grow Fonder, Too
Bring him a token of love, and he’ll melt right before your eyes. A picture of the two of you — preferably in an elegantly styled frame — will let him know you "get" who he is, and that will make him want to disrobe you, slowly and with utter titillation, as he simultaneously covers your body in sweet kisses. If you don’t yet have photographic evidence of your couplehood, try designer candy or a lovely hand towel for his bathroom. You’d be surprised how much your awareness of his love for beauty will turn him on. Venus, in her station as the goddess of love and beauty (as opposed to pure sensuality in Taurus), is the planet that rules Libra, and it’s evident in the way Libra approaches everything, especially making love. He very much will want to "take you out for dinner first," and more than simply because he wants to make a good impression.
Libra Listens Critically, but in a Good Way
Libra always tends to see both sides of every two-way conversation. That’s why, if you’re relating a story about a dispute with someone else you know to your Libra pal, he’ll bring up how he can see that person’s point too. Try not to be irritated. Libra is obsessive-compulsive when it comes to bringing things into balance. If you had time to unravel all of Libra’s motivations, you’d probably discover he really only wants to make things better for you by bringing you into a state of equilibrium with regard to this relationship. Libra will be there for you, most of the time, but often you’ll have to wait while he decides what to wear or which wallet to take. Libra people are slow to make decisions, and you must always give them "A" or "B" choices, unless you want to spend much of your time waiting for them to deliberate over a cornucopia of choices. It’s not that Libra wants to drive you crazy, though he might! He merely can’t imagine what it would be like if he were to lose one thing because he chose another. Libra was probably the first of us to come up with the idea of wanting to "have it all," and it’s hard for him to stop trying to do just that.
Libra Loves Being in Love…and Digs Sex Too
Fortunately, Libra does realize that being in bed with someone requires a definite choice, and he will make it with great enthusiasm. His peace-loving nature will mean that he will prefer a calm atmosphere in the bedroom, and he will create a setting that is quite conducive to making love. There might be candles, soft music, satin sheets, massage oils, and beautiful flowers; or just a moonlit, quiet spot where you can’t help but notice the romance of it all. And, if you want to get to your Libra, massage his most tender body part — the back. There are spots there that definitely move him closer to realizing it’s time to go past the foreplay stage, but rarely will Libra get straight to the sex and come to orgasm without regard for your feelings. Libra will want you to have something to remember and long for when you are away from each other. Libra likes variety, so he will take you out on dates to a lot of different places. The only thing that will remain the same is the wonderful way you feel after you and your Libra make love.
of Lover: Gentle, Considerate, and Artful
Libra’s consideration for your feelings is obvious even when you’re in the highly physical part of having sex. He’ll stop now and then to look at you, appreciate your beauty, and use that as inspiration for more passion and titillation. Libra is big on kissing — not just on the mouth, but all over. There might be times when you think you’re on the set of The Addams Family, and he wants you to play Morticia to his Gomez. He can spend so much time on foreplay that you wonder if he’s ever going to get on with it. Don’t lose your patience. Libra just wants you to know he really, really appreciates you, and also that it really is your beauty that turns him on. Besides, he has a lot of technique in his repertoire and can make the sex you’re about to have more than worth the wait.
Bed: It’s All About the Romance for Libra Men
As in everything else he does, Libra places a high priority on creating beauty and balance in the act of sex. He will want your time together to be warm, serene, and satisfying. He’ll shy away from the more animalistic side of lovemaking, preferring to emphasize romance and love rather than raw pleasure and carnal acrobatics. Even when he reaches orgasm, he’ll want it to be a moment of beauty and awe for both of you, and because he wants balance, he’ll want it to be at the same time or at least after you have your moments of ecstasy. Libra might seem to be detached and aloof some of the time, but for the most part you’re going to find his penchant to romance balances that out quite well.
Heart: Libra Will Want the Perfect Relationship
Libra is worse than a hopeless romantic; he is a hopeful one. This means he will want your relationship to be peaceful all the time. This makes it very difficult to settle disagreements, of course, but you must remember that Libra doesn’t ever want to have a disagreement to begin with. In his world, all is in perfect equilibrium, but what he doesn’t get is how much tension this can create. Even when he is annoyed by something about the relationship, he will have trouble bringing his real feelings to the surface. He will drop hints and maybe make you guess why he’s not talking to you, and when you ask him what’s wrong, he’ll say, "nothing, honey." He’ll go a long way to avoid rocking your little love boat.
Up: Libra Has a Hard Time Letting Go
If for any reason you decide to call it quits, he’ll pretend like he’s all right, but he really won’t be. What’s more, he’ll strike back in some way at you, usually through passive aggression — his favorite device of manipulation. If he decides to make an exit, he’ll probably do something to make you mad enough that you’ll do it for him. Libra would have trouble going home with himself if he ever had to do anything you could call "mean," and no, manipulating your behavior because his feelings are hurt doesn’t fall into that category — not for him!
In Libra’s perfect world, romance lasts forever, even if it is he who is bored or dissatisfied with your union, and he will be sad if it were to come to an end. This could lead him to go to extreme measures to keep the two of you together, including couples therapy and other attempts to keep the love alive. If that doesn’t work out and you do break up, Libra will need "closure." That means you’ll have to think it through and talk it out with him…or he may never leave you alone. Look at it this way, there are a lot worse things that can happen than for Libra to maintain a friendship with you after the love is gone.
Sexually Fit: You Have to Keep a Libra Man From Letting Himself Go
Ask any parents who’ve ever raised a Libra, and they’ll tell you — Libra is generally lazy, especially when it comes to physical activity. This can lead to health problems, and with Libra this could involve the back and the kidneys. Libra needs to have a diet that is as balanced as the way he approaches the rest of life, and should engage in regular exercise. If this doesn’t happen, Libra can become very unhappy with the results. Self-acceptance for Libra comes from the feeling that he is beautiful; and if excess weight or lack of vigor interferes with this, he will be very insecure, and this will affect your sex life. Here’s the trick: Libra always prefers to do things with one other person over solitary activity, so eat right and exercise right along with him. Show him that pursuing his health is a good thing for your romance, and he’ll come with you when you go out running, rowing, or swimming…about a third of the time.
Astrologer Judi Vitale brings the Love and Sex Horoscope to you daily. She is the author of Lovecasts: The Astrological Guide to Finding Lasting Love.