October 22 – November 21
Ideal Friends: Capricorn,
Aquarius, Taurus, Cancer, and Virgo
Best Lover: Taurus
Most Suitable Life Partners: Taurus, Leo, Scorpio, and Aquarius
Best Fit for Children: Pisces
His Scorpio Horoscope
Scorpio plays no games when it comes to love. From the beginning, the words that will pop into your head to describe him will be "intense," "ardent," "focused" — and maybe "obsessive." Scorpio can be almost scary because of the way he takes a simple conversation and converts it into a commitment, often without you even getting a chance to think about it.
His private side can also make people uncomfortable, because his secretive nature makes you wonder what he’s hiding. In truth, Scorpio is very honest, reliable, and loyal — as long as you keep him on your side, that is! Although Scorpio can be kind, compassionate, and caring, he is no pushover. The "nighttime" side of Mars is the ruler of Scorpio. This is the warrior as ninja, the one that lies in wait for you to make one false move, then swiftly and ruthlessly allows his will to be known and actualized. In other words, he sneaks up from behind and slashes you — not usually with a real sword, though. Scorpio uses words to wound, and his tongue can be even sharper than the finest saber. He is also easily offended.
Scorpio can be a delightful, strong, and supportive partner, but when he gets jealous or wants to teach you a lesson, you’d better run. Scorpio’s known for being dismissive and snobbish, but once you get to know him, you’ll see that this is because he’s always striving for excellence. When he sees people who have no inclination toward trying to make their lives any better, he gets disgusted and doesn’t want anything to do with them.
Aphrodisiac: Sex is Always On Scorpio’s
Scorpio doesn’t require anything to get his mind on sex. It’s nearly always already there. You won’t even have to do much to express your interest in him. Because he’s got that eerie psychic thing going on, he will have picked up on it from the first time you unconsciously sent out a signal. You might have a hard time, in fact, getting to know him first. Be prepared to set some boundaries and see how long you can resist allowing him to remove your clothing for you. He’ll find that little bit of resistance to be a challenge and will almost certainly want to jump right in and rise to the occasion, so to speak.
Friendship: Scorpio Is the Real Deal
Scorpio is very careful about whom he lets into his life, and the reason for this is his sensitivity. He will always keep a few secrets: But once he shares something important with you, and you know you’ve earned his trust, you must not betray his confidence. You also need to pay him a great deal of attention, and you might sometimes wish he’d give you more room to breathe and be with a wider variety of people. With all this said, it’s important to realize his greatest fear is that you won’t approve of him. Be clear that your desire to be separate now and again has nothing to do with the way you feel about him, and that you need to have your time alone just like he does. It’s likely he’ll understand when you put it that way.
Setting the level of expectation in this friendship is without a doubt the best way to keep Scorpio at a healthy distance. The price you might pay is a bit of aloofness from him, but over time you’ll develop a level of familiarity and emotional intimacy that‘s comfortable for both of you. When you fail to do this, Scorpio will make unreasonable demands on your time. That’s when you could do or say something that hurts his feelings, and then…look out! Scorpio might act like he’s unaffected by the perceived slight, but in one way or another you’re going to pay for it…big time! It’s really best to understand Scorpio’s way of being with people before you get involved on any level, and this gets even more important when your relationship goes into the physical realm.
Sensuality: Scorpio Will Transform You
Scorpio can be deeply emotional, and much of the expression of these feelings will come out in sex. Even without all the soppy stuff, though, sex with a Scorpio is an experience that’s hard to forget. It feels as though Scorpio puts some kind of antenna inside you (although his actual "equipment" will be quite larger in diameter than that!) and sends messages to you all the time. The part of the body that is most sensitive is no surprise — it’s his genitals. He’s not big on foreplay, but he’ll turn you on so fast, you probably won’t miss it at all. In fact, while you’re together, the experience you have will make you wonder where he ends and you begin. Once Scorpio has made love to you, it will feel like you’ve become a whole different person, with some part of him always on your mind if not in your heart.
Type of Lover: Scorpio Will Devour You…in a
Lucky for you, the one area of life Scorpio prides himself on most is performing the sex act. He not only is a natural-born expert, he also has a way of turning you into an even more marvelous lover than you already are. In fact, it can almost feel as though he has a magical spell on you, and it can even get to the point where you feel "possessed," and that’s how Scorpio sees it too. You won’t find a more passionate and powerful lover than Scorpio, no matter how hard you try. Physically, mentally, emotionally, and psychically, the Scorpion will cast a spell on you that can be hard to break. He won’t pretend not to be interested in the experience of sex. He lives for it. From the moment he takes you into his arms until you both have had more than a few orgasms, you will be treated to some of the finest sensual experiences you’ll ever remember.
In Bed: Let Scorpio Take Charge, but You
Have to Rise to the Occasion, Too
Scorpio will take over in bed no matter how hard you try to be the one "on top," so to speak. He does this because he knows he’s the one who has the natural knack for inducing pleasure and leading you both to orgasms. He can create acts of passion that seem to be almost like miracles; but he doesn’t necessarily do it with raw technique. He does it with his heart and soul, and there’s no faking where he’s concerned. Scorpio knows he’s a fabulous lover but still appreciates it when you let him know and, preferably, add that you have never, ever had it this good. This doesn’t mean you can sit back and coast through this, though. Scorpio will expect you to step up to the plate and hit one home, too. You might never be as sensual, instinctive, or artistic as he is, but that doesn’t matter. You’ll have one heck of a good time trying.
In Relationship: Scorpio Will Test Your
Loyalty, Then Test It Again
The way the average Scorpio deals with privacy could be at the root of the Scorpion’s ethos for relationship, but once you find out about it, you’ll be astounded at what you have to prove. The purpose for relationship in Scorpio’s life is not to have casual sex (although he’s really good at that too…), but it is to become one with his partner. In his mind, you have been chosen because you complete him by adding aspects and attributes that enhance his being. This is why it’s very important not to lose your identity in this relationship — although it’s easy to do that with a personality as strong as Scorpio’s. He will test you out constantly, alternately taking control of every situation and insisting you make up your own mind about an issue that you could really use help with. Scorpio means no harm by hanging you over the abyss under threat of abandonment; he just wants to be reassured that he has truly chosen well.
The Heart: Scorpio Is Strong, But Takes
Despite his unbelievable strength, Scorpio does have a tender heart. He’s romantic and tender, but might not always show that side in public. He’ll probably play up the sexual side of your relationship when he’s out with friends, but you know how he really feels because of how deeply he looks into your eyes and pierces any defense you might have surrounding your soul. Scorpio can make lots of jokes, but taking one, especially if it’s at his expense, is a whole other matter. Remember that if you tend to make off-handed remarks and happen to think of a funny quip that could potentially be insulting to him.
Breaking Up: Good-bye Is Forever
Because of Scorpio’s trust issues and his intense love of privacy, if and when you decide to break up, you’d better be serious about it. Scorpio can be magnanimous and generous, but when you hurt him he will become stingy, especially with his emotions and approval. Furthermore, if he feels slighted, hurt, or insulted by your words or deeds, he will strike back. The only way to handle breaking it off with Scorpio is to do it completely and quickly. There’s no chance of staying friends, at least not at first. Maybe, years later, you can both look back, laugh…and probably have sex again, just for the heck of it.
If Scorpio ends it with you, it’s probably because he’s decided you’re not strong enough for him. Despite his obvious desire to take over every situation and manage it with his very strong will, if you show no resistance, he will give up on you. The other likely reason for him to call it quits would be disloyalty. Yes, he’s possessive — and obsessive about it. You knew that when you got together. So, if you have any inkling to cheat, remember that he’ll "just know" in ways that baffle you. And, once he finds out, it will be almost impossible for him to trust you ever again, even a teensie-weensie bit.
Staying Sexually Fit: Scorpio Should Be
Careful About Putting on Weight
Scorpio’s desire for excellence can drive him to take exceptional care of himself, but there are many Scorpio people who wind up getting way out of shape. This could be due to Scorpio’s need to be private — and a wish to repel too many sexual advances. Still, even with extra weight and little or no muscle, Scorpio can do sexy like nobody else. If your Scorpio tends to overeat due to some kind of fear of sharing himself, encourage him to switch to less-fattening snacks. Scorpio is very adept at hiding things — even from himself — so there is definitely the potential for binge eating at weird times, such as the middle of the night or anytime there’s no one else watching. With all that said, you still have to let him know you’ll love him no matter what happens to the shape of his body. That might be all it takes to raise his consciousness and give him incentive to eat more wisely.
As far as exercise goes, Scorpio can become obsessive about it. Help him find something he likes a lot, and try to let it involve the water. Rowing or swimming might work very well.
Astrologer Judi Vitale brings the Love and Sex Horoscope to you daily. She is the author of Lovecasts: The Astrological Guide to Finding Lasting Love.