Embrace Your Sexuality Without the Use of Alcohol

Is “drunk sex” the new norm for most couples?

An alarming new study from the United Kingdom has found that most women prefer to knock back a few cocktails before having sex. According to the study, almost half the female respondents reported that alcohol helps them to lose their inhibitions and feel more adventurous during the act. And swinging singles weren’t the only ones who confessed a reliance on liquid courage. Seventy-five percent of committed women also reported that they enjoy a few libations before having intercourse with their boyfriend or husband.

These shocking findings illustrate the severe impact that body-image issues can have on a woman’s relationship and sex life. Most of the survey respondents admitted that they turn to alcohol because it helps them to feel more desirable and because it allows them to check their body-image issues at the door. Alcohol helps a woman forget that she isn’t a size zero and that she doesn’t have the boobs she had when she was 20 years old.

Of course, while a couple cosmos can help you feel a little more Megan Fox-y, they can also numb you and detract from your sexual experience. One glass of wine can help you relax and get in the mood, but two, three, or more can throw a wrench in your sexual response and make orgasm unlikely. Not to mention, women deserve more than a lifetime of drunk sex. You deserve to feel comfortable and sexy in your own skin without the aid of alcohol, and your partner deserves the clarity and adoration of a sober mind.

Luckily, with practice, you can learn how to tap into your own beauty and sexual power without a bottle of wine. Here’s how:

Embrace your sexuality. We all have hang-ups when it comes to our sexual desires, but women in particular suffer from sexual shame and guilt. “Nice girls” don’t make the first move, wear daring lingerie, or make their sexual needs a priority. Unfortunately, all of this shame prevents women from embracing their sexuality, even when they are in a relationship. It’s hard to simply turn those voices off, which is why some women turn to alcohol for that release. Instead, look for where those negative thoughts are coming from and then work past that shame and confusion. Embrace your sexuality through self-stimulation and fantasy, and then start channeling your new sexual energy and confidence into your relationship.

Find lingerie that works for you. Life is too short for granny panties. Yet many women are afraid to dress seductively, at least until they’ve had a few glasses of wine. Forget the liquid courage and instead find lingerie that you feel confident in. There are so many flattering and comfortable brands of lingerie out there, and with such a wide variety of colors and styles, that there really is something for everyone. Lula Lu specializes in lingerie for petite women, while Eve’s Apples specializes in lingerie for women with small breasts. Hips and Curves offers a variety of lingerie for curvy and plus-sized women, and Hot Milk offers lingerie for women who are pregnant or nursing. Nor do you have to turn to designer lines. Stores such as Target or Victoria’s Secret also have abundant varieties of undergarments that can satisfy the inner vixen in you.

Find the size and style that works for you, whether it’s leopard boy-shorts, a lacy thong, or a hot-pink pair of cheekies. Now hold your shoulders back and strut your stuff… and, trust me, the look on your partner’s face will be more rewarding than any number of cocktails!