Body language is one of the oldest forms of communication, and even in today’s technological society, humans still rely on this ancient language to interpret the thoughts and feelings of people around them. Even if you don’t realize it, you are also sending out (and interpreting) body-language cues throughout the day, especially when it comes to your interactions with the opposite sex. Brush up on your language skills here:
Know the basics. Just as animals display body-language cues (for example, pushed-back ears and fur standing up mean stay away), humans have basic body-language reactions as well. The basic body-language cues are easy to spot: When people are nervous they might chew their nails, play with their hair, or otherwise fidget and fret. People when frightened might look pale or drawn, and their pupils might be dilated and fixed. Happy people smile, while those who are angry might get red in the face or clench their fists. These are all simple signs that even children can interpret immediately, and believe it or not, such cues were once vital to our survival in the wild. Now, they just help us to see when someone is in a good mood…or when you should turn around and walk away pronto!
Use your body to speak your mind. Body language is also invaluable when it comes to flirting and sending out the right messages to your date. For example, crossed arms signal that you aren’t interested, as do crossed legs or clenched fists. If you want to appear open and available, allow your limbs to be loose and comfortable, and keep your body turned toward your date. Incline your neck when he speaks to appear engaged and interested, nod occasionally, and smile.
Pick up on the cues he is sending out. When you talk, are his eyes fixed on yours, or do they wander around the room? If it is the latter, he might not be interested…or he might not be interested in the tale you are sharing about your coworker’s new baby. If he is fiddling with his silverware or keeping his hands in constant motion, it could be that he is nervous and intimidated by you (which likely means he is quite interested!).
Use your body to describe your desire. Body language can also be useful in the bedroom (and on the way to the bedroom). For example, if you want your partner to know you have sex on your mind, draw attention to your erogenous zones such as your neck and breasts. Lightly touch your collarbone or stroke your chest “accidentally,” or wear a long necklace that dips into your cleavage. It will draw his eyes down to your breasts and you can innocently play with the chain throughout dinner to keep him riveted. Your hair and lips are also very flirt-centric areas, so touch your hair lightly or draw on a light swipe of lip gloss in his presence. You will immediately spark his desire and let him know that you have one thing on your mind — and one thing only.
Show him how much you yearn for him. When in the bedroom, you can heighten his desire by showing him how much you want him. You don’t even have to use words; your body alone will tell him everything he needs to know. Touch yourself to show him how uninhibited and hot you are, or move your hips against his rhythmically during foreplay to get his fantasies started. At that point, his body language should be very clear and easy to interpret!
Remember, when it comes to sexual desire, let your body do the talking!